Quantity Or Quality?

How do you define the word “friend?” Is a “friend” someone who is “special” or “unique” or “close” or “a good listener” or “dependable to help when I’m in trouble?” One of these, all of these, or none of these? Do you have someone whom you call “friend?” Have you ever had what you would call a “friend?” Would you know one if you have one?

I have a “friend” who often calls me his “best friend” when we are engaged in a conversation. Yet, in the same conversation, he talks of others as being “my best friend.” So, which is it? Am I the “best” friend? OR, are we all “best friends?” Confused? Perhaps that’s what happens when we make an attempt to define “friend.”

Solomon wrote, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to trouble, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” In the Hebrew language the first word, “friend” is better interpreted as “companion” – meaning one who is “physically present for a particular purpose or time.” The second time the word appears, it is best interpreted as one with whom there is “an emotional bonding,” – a connectedness that is unbreakable. The “companion” is a “casual acquaintance” who is unreliable, untrustworthy, lacks discernment, and God’s wisdom.

Most of us have experienced both. Unfortunately, though, there have been “friends who were bonded to us” who disappointed and abandoned when adversity invaded our lives. Enter Jesus, Who said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you!” Jesus delights in not only calling us “servants” but “friends.” How blest we are to know that the risen Christ refuses to abandon us!”

PRAYER: We love You, Father, for being our “friend!” We take comfort in knowing that although we may forsake You, You will never forsake us. Never! Thank you, In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to trouble, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. 

Quantity Or Quality?

How do you define the word “friend?” Is a “friend” someone who is “special” or “unique” or “close” or “a good listener” or “dependable to help when I’m in trouble?” One of these, all of these, or none of these? Do you have someone whom you call “friend?” Have you ever had what you would call a “friend?” Would you know one if you have one?

I have a “friend” who often calls me his “best friend” when we are engaged in a conversation. Yet, in the same conversation, he talks of others as being “my best friend.” So, which is it? Am I the “best” friend? OR, are we all “best friends?” Confused? Perhaps that’s what happens when we make an attempt to define “friend.”

Solomon wrote, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to trouble, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” In the Hebrew language the first word, “friend” is better interpreted as “companion” – meaning one who is “physically present for a particular purpose or time.” The second time the word appears, it is best interpreted as one with whom there is “an emotional bonding,” – a connectedness that is unbreakable. The “companion” is a “casual acquaintance” who is unreliable, untrustworthy, lacks discernment, and God’s wisdom.

Most of us have experienced both. Unfortunately, though, there have been “friends who were bonded to us” who disappointed and abandoned when adversity invaded our lives. Enter Jesus, Who said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you!” Jesus delights in not only calling us “servants” but “friends.” How blest we are to know that the risen Christ refuses to abandon us!”

PRAYER: We love You, Father, for being our “friend!” We take comfort in knowing that although we may forsake You, You will never forsake us. Never! Thank you, In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to trouble, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. 

Able And Willing - Or - Unable And Unwilling

There are two themes that are consistent throughout the Bible. One is work and the other is giving. Soon after placing Adam in the Garden of Eden, God said to him, “Work and take care of it...” At that moment in history, God declared that man has a responsibility to work and provide for himself. However, in one of His sermons, Jesus said, “Freely you have received, freely give.” What if one is unable to work? Should the one who does work give what he has to support the one who cannot work?

Solomon wrote, “The poor plead for mercy, but the rich answer harshly.” Who is responsible to whom in this situation? The poor to work if they can, or the rich to give if they have plenty?

The “poor” in this verse is one who is “pleading” for help, and for whatever reason, are unable to work. They are willing to work but are unable. On the other hand, the “wealthy” in this verse, have plenty, are able to help, but unwilling – actually “unyielding” – to share their riches with those in need. The teaching is clear: If a person can work, they must. And, if a person is rich, their wealth came from God but they are, in fact, responsible to help those in need.

It is intriguing that the word “mercy” comes between “the poor” and “the rich.” Here the rich have wealth, but no mercy, and the poor, who need mercy to survive, are rejected.

Paul wrote, “Though He was rich...He became poor.” God knew we are “poor” and need His salvation that comes from His mercy. In love, He sent His son, “that we might become rich!”

PRAYER: Thank You, Father, for the gift of salvation that is ours because of Your mercy. We are grateful for this gift that we desperately need, but cannot afford. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:23 The poor plead for mercy, but the rich answer harshly. 

Able And Willing - Or - Unable And Unwilling

There are two themes that are consistent throughout the Bible. One is work and the other is giving. Soon after placing Adam in the Garden of Eden, God said to him, “Work and take care of it...” At that moment in history, God declared that man has a responsibility to work and provide for himself. However, in one of His sermons, Jesus said, “Freely you have received, freely give.” What if one is unable to work? Should the one who does work give what he has to support the one who cannot work?

Solomon wrote, “The poor plead for mercy, but the rich answer harshly.” Who is responsible to whom in this situation? The poor to work if they can, or the rich to give if they have plenty?

The “poor” in this verse is one who is “pleading” for help, and for whatever reason, are unable to work. They are willing to work but are unable. On the other hand, the “wealthy” in this verse, have plenty, are able to help, but unwilling – actually “unyielding” – to share their riches with those in need. The teaching is clear: If a person can work, they must. And, if a person is rich, their wealth came from God but they are, in fact, responsible to help those in need.

It is intriguing that the word “mercy” comes between “the poor” and “the rich.” Here the rich have wealth, but no mercy, and the poor, who need mercy to survive, are rejected.

Paul wrote, “Though He was rich...He became poor.” God knew we are “poor” and need His salvation that comes from His mercy. In love, He sent His son, “that we might become rich!”

PRAYER: Thank You, Father, for the gift of salvation that is ours because of Your mercy. We are grateful for this gift that we desperately need, but cannot afford. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:23 The poor plead for mercy, but the rich answer harshly. 

I Thank God For His Gift

Marriage, unfortunately, for far too many, is seen as an “enjoy it for as long as you want and then trade your spouse for someone else.” Solving the problems that come with every relationship - not just with a wife or husband - are normal and natural. People have different values and expectations and often, rather than to try to understand and solve them, and grow together, tempers flare and a divorce occurs - leaving marred lives and shattered dreams. More often than not, both are equally responsible for refusing to be Christ-like and demonstrate the love of God to one another.

But Solomon made a statement that brought great delight to my ears: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” In the original Hebrew, it reads: “He who finds a wife finds good.”

To grasp the meaning of this verse, we must understand that the word “good” means something like a “fortune” or “favor.” In the sight of God. A good wife and a good life are synonymous in God’s plan most of the time. This comes from the second chapter of Genesis.

What we must understand, however, is that it is the Lord who has given her to him. She is an expression of God’s “favor” bestowed upon the husband. Hence, a man cannot find a good wife on his own. A good wife comes as a favor from God and as with all of God’s favors, it must be sought diligently, carefully, and above all, prayerfully. We men must never be self-centered and think we deserve God’s gift of a wife. It is as stated: she is: “a favor from the Lord.”

Prayer: Father, grant us husbands the humility to accept and recognize the fact that our wives are Your favors. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. 

I Thank God For His Gift

Marriage, unfortunately, for far too many, is seen as an “enjoy it for as long as you want and then trade your spouse for someone else.” Solving the problems that come with every relationship - not just with a wife or husband - are normal and natural. People have different values and expectations and often, rather than to try to understand and solve them, and grow together, tempers flare and a divorce occurs - leaving marred lives and shattered dreams. More often than not, both are equally responsible for refusing to be Christ-like and demonstrate the love of God to one another.

But Solomon made a statement that brought great delight to my ears: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” In the original Hebrew, it reads: “He who finds a wife finds good.”

To grasp the meaning of this verse, we must understand that the word “good” means something like a “fortune” or “favor.” In the sight of God. A good wife and a good life are synonymous in God’s plan most of the time. This comes from the second chapter of Genesis.

What we must understand, however, is that it is the Lord who has given her to him. She is an expression of God’s “favor” bestowed upon the husband. Hence, a man cannot find a good wife on his own. A good wife comes as a favor from God and as with all of God’s favors, it must be sought diligently, carefully, and above all, prayerfully. We men must never be self-centered and think we deserve God’s gift of a wife. It is as stated: she is: “a favor from the Lord.”

Prayer: Father, grant us husbands the humility to accept and recognize the fact that our wives are Your favors. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. 

Tongue Tied

Have you ever tried to help a person speak when they had a difficult time trying to express themselves? Actually, it’s hard not to. It’s difficult to carry on a conversation with a person when their words get stuck and ideas lost. That’s not the end of life for either party. But, “The tongue does have the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Can you recall the story of Moses in Deuteronomy when he said, “This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before your life and death, blessings and curses? Now, choose life so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice and hold fast to Him.” What a challenging sermon. Moses used his tongue to present to his audience an opportunity to choose life or death. He gave the pros and cons and said, “The choice is up to you - but for your own good, choose life.”

Tongues have power that far exceeds their length. The original language of this proverb is rather blunt: “Death and life are in the hand of the tongue.” How very disturbing. Our tongues actually have the power to bring life or death to others. Our tongues have the power to be agents of good or evil, build others up or tear them down, bring encouragement and hope, or even annihilate a person’s grasp on life because they are weak, feel unloved and unwanted. We can do much to destroy others by abusing them with the way we chose to use our tongues.

What we say to others may destroy them completely or bless them throughout eternity.

Prayer: Lord, how much power You gave us with the gift of our tongues and voices. May we use them carefully to bless, give hope, and encourage others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:21 The tongue does have the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. 

Tongue Tied

Have you ever tried to help a person speak when they had a difficult time trying to express themselves? Actually, it’s hard not to. It’s difficult to carry on a conversation with a person when their words get stuck and ideas lost. That’s not the end of life for either party. But, “The tongue does have the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Can you recall the story of Moses in Deuteronomy when he said, “This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before your life and death, blessings and curses? Now, choose life so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice and hold fast to Him.” What a challenging sermon. Moses used his tongue to present to his audience an opportunity to choose life or death. He gave the pros and cons and said, “The choice is up to you - but for your own good, choose life.”

Tongues have power that far exceeds their length. The original language of this proverb is rather blunt: “Death and life are in the hand of the tongue.” How very disturbing. Our tongues actually have the power to bring life or death to others. Our tongues have the power to be agents of good or evil, build others up or tear them down, bring encouragement and hope, or even annihilate a person’s grasp on life because they are weak, feel unloved and unwanted. We can do much to destroy others by abusing them with the way we chose to use our tongues.

What we say to others may destroy them completely or bless them throughout eternity.

Prayer: Lord, how much power You gave us with the gift of our tongues and voices. May we use them carefully to bless, give hope, and encourage others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:21 The tongue does have the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. 

Gaining Favor

Solomon had much to say about bribes. No doubt his success as king and his great wisdom made him extremely popular. Surely, those who were people of means would court his prestige and power and knew it would bring great dividends they could not achieve on their own. Actually, it’s no different today than it was when he was at the prime of his career.

“A gift – (actually a bribe) - opens the door for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great,” Solomon mused. A similar word for “bribe” is found in chapter 17 - verses 8 and 23. However, in this verse, it is much more general and really is not significant. But the idea in this verse is of one wanting to purchase favor from someone who has more power and influence than they, and wanting something they did not deserve or could not earn on their own.

Getting into the presence of the powerful, for most of us, would be difficult. The road to their “seat” is narrow and contains many barriers and blockades and is usually blocked by “gate-keepers.” But, if one is cunning and has acquired the fine art of manipulating others, many things become possible. The appropriate “donation” during a political campaign may be just what is needed after a victorious election. So, many “hedge their bets.”

Unfortunately, bribing anyone at any time for anything is wrong in the eyes of God. It encourages wickedness and dishonesty in the hearts of the receiver and the giver.

Living honestly and with integrity is God’s way to a successful life.

Prayer: Help us, Lord, to abandon all practices that are deceitful and displeasing to You. May we who call You Savior and Lord live honorably in Your sight! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:16 A gift opens the door for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great 

Gaining Favor

Solomon had much to say about bribes. No doubt his success as king and his great wisdom made him extremely popular. Surely, those who were people of means would court his prestige and power and knew it would bring great dividends they could not achieve on their own. Actually, it’s no different today than it was when he was at the prime of his career.

“A gift – (actually a bribe) - opens the door for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great,” Solomon mused. A similar word for “bribe” is found in chapter 17 - verses 8 and 23. However, in this verse, it is much more general and really is not significant. But the idea in this verse is of one wanting to purchase favor from someone who has more power and influence than they, and wanting something they did not deserve or could not earn on their own.

Getting into the presence of the powerful, for most of us, would be difficult. The road to their “seat” is narrow and contains many barriers and blockades and is usually blocked by “gate-keepers.” But, if one is cunning and has acquired the fine art of manipulating others, many things become possible. The appropriate “donation” during a political campaign may be just what is needed after a victorious election. So, many “hedge their bets.”

Unfortunately, bribing anyone at any time for anything is wrong in the eyes of God. It encourages wickedness and dishonesty in the hearts of the receiver and the giver.

Living honestly and with integrity is God’s way to a successful life.

Prayer: Help us, Lord, to abandon all practices that are deceitful and displeasing to You. May we who call You Savior and Lord live honorably in Your sight! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:16 A gift opens the door for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great 

Seeking The Right "Stuff"

SEEKING THE RIGHT “STUFF”

Years ago while I was a graduate student studying human behavior, it was the “rule” of the day to take an endless number of pencil and paper tests. The object, so often stated, was to “provide an understanding of who we were and to bring self-enlightenment and understanding.” Some were insightful, some worthless and some actually, if I might say it with respect, (now that I have a Ph.D. and can speak with authority?) really stupid.

Proverbs 18:15 has some great advice for students of all ages and disciplines: “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, the ears of the wise seek it out.” The first step of a wise person is to understand that he is not wise. How very interesting. Many think their professors possess knowledge and wisdom, and by sitting in their classes and listening to their lectures, will impart to them the information they need and elevate them intellectually. Others who believe they are learned persons seek to prove they are knowledgeable by having someone validate it. Some think that truth and knowledge can be discovered apart from God.

The truly wise person is one who is willing to admit that getting knowledge and wisdom is a life-long journey that begins and ends with God. Proverbs reminds us over and over again to “let the wise listen and add to their knowledge and let the discerning get knowledge.”

But Solomon never strays from the indisputable fact that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”

Teachers and books will pass away, but God’s Word abides forever!

Prayer: Give us wisdom, knowledge, and insight, Lord, that comes from You. May teachers who know and honor You proclaim loudly that wisdom begins with fearing You! Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:15 The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, the ears of the wise seek it out. 

Seeking The Right "Stuff"

SEEKING THE RIGHT “STUFF”

Years ago while I was a graduate student studying human behavior, it was the “rule” of the day to take an endless number of pencil and paper tests. The object, so often stated, was to “provide an understanding of who we were and to bring self-enlightenment and understanding.” Some were insightful, some worthless and some actually, if I might say it with respect, (now that I have a Ph.D. and can speak with authority?) really stupid.

Proverbs 18:15 has some great advice for students of all ages and disciplines: “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, the ears of the wise seek it out.” The first step of a wise person is to understand that he is not wise. How very interesting. Many think their professors possess knowledge and wisdom, and by sitting in their classes and listening to their lectures, will impart to them the information they need and elevate them intellectually. Others who believe they are learned persons seek to prove they are knowledgeable by having someone validate it. Some think that truth and knowledge can be discovered apart from God.

The truly wise person is one who is willing to admit that getting knowledge and wisdom is a life-long journey that begins and ends with God. Proverbs reminds us over and over again to “let the wise listen and add to their knowledge and let the discerning get knowledge.”

But Solomon never strays from the indisputable fact that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.”

Teachers and books will pass away, but God’s Word abides forever!

Prayer: Give us wisdom, knowledge, and insight, Lord, that comes from You. May teachers who know and honor You proclaim loudly that wisdom begins with fearing You! Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:15 The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, the ears of the wise seek it out. 

Hope And Health

HOPE AND HEALTH

Once, while riding our bicycles over a mountain in California, I began to complain to my son John about the toll the ride was taking on me. My body seemed to be wracked with pain after riding for over six hours. After a moment he made one of his profound, son-to-father, life-altering statements to me.

“Dad,” he said, “we didn’t have to do this. We chose to do it. Pain is optional. Suffering isn’t.”

Solomon also made a similar statement: “A man’s spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit - who can bear?” All of us endure days of suffering as well as pain as we walk through life’s journey. Often the “pain-part of life” brings about the accomplishment of a heart’s desire: to accomplish something that is very difficult. It may be that no one else has ever attempted to do what we have set our hearts to do that comes from pain or suffering.

We may be chosen by God to endure long nights of unbearable suffering that no one has the capacity to embrace. Our minds may be confused by problems that surmount all methods of healing. Suffering often alters our inner resources and mental outlook to combat the “unwanted suffering.” Many of us come to the place where we have no more mental, physical or even spiritual resources to overcome our suffering. What then?

Are there any simple answers or pithy statements or verses available? Though we may try, sometimes there are no easy ways to eliminate the suffering. All must accept the grace of God and enter into the “fellowship of His suffering.” Remember Jesus: “That I may know Him!”

Prayer: Father, we pray for those suffering today. Please give them Your peace, renew their spirit, comfort their minds and hearts, and grant them Your hope. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:14 A man’s spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit - who can bear? 

Hope And Health

HOPE AND HEALTH

Once, while riding our bicycles over a mountain in California, I began to complain to my son John about the toll the ride was taking on me. My body seemed to be wracked with pain after riding for over six hours. After a moment he made one of his profound, son-to-father, life-altering statements to me.

“Dad,” he said, “we didn’t have to do this. We chose to do it. Pain is optional. Suffering isn’t.”

Solomon also made a similar statement: “A man’s spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit - who can bear?” All of us endure days of suffering as well as pain as we walk through life’s journey. Often the “pain-part of life” brings about the accomplishment of a heart’s desire: to accomplish something that is very difficult. It may be that no one else has ever attempted to do what we have set our hearts to do that comes from pain or suffering.

We may be chosen by God to endure long nights of unbearable suffering that no one has the capacity to embrace. Our minds may be confused by problems that surmount all methods of healing. Suffering often alters our inner resources and mental outlook to combat the “unwanted suffering.” Many of us come to the place where we have no more mental, physical or even spiritual resources to overcome our suffering. What then?

Are there any simple answers or pithy statements or verses available? Though we may try, sometimes there are no easy ways to eliminate the suffering. All must accept the grace of God and enter into the “fellowship of His suffering.” Remember Jesus: “That I may know Him!”

Prayer: Father, we pray for those suffering today. Please give them Your peace, renew their spirit, comfort their minds and hearts, and grant them Your hope. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:14 A man’s spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit - who can bear? 

Listen Up!

There is a tremendous difference between listening and hearing. We can hear without listening but cannot listen without hearing. Our ears have become accustomed to being bombarded by so many loud noises that we often hear things without listening to what is actually going on or being said. It is reminiscent of the old adage that there is something “going in one ear and out the other” without being noticed. This can create problems for us.

“He who answers without listening - that is his folly and shame,” is a wise admonishment. All too often when we are talking with one another, we are more interested in what we are thinking about than what the other person is saying to us. Unless we place a high value on what they are saying, we are apt to misunderstand what that person is saying to us or needing from us.

There are those who think a quick answer is a sign of intellect, knowledge, or wisdom. Actually, it may be none of them. In fact, this proverb insists that to give an answer to someone without listening is, in fact, the sign of a foolish person. Furthermore, there is a strong suggestion in this proverb that the person who responds without careful thought is foolish, and will ultimately bring shame on him or herself.

But there is even a more subtle hint here that is well worth thinking about. A person who carefully and thoughtfully listens to another person shows that person respect. It is as if we are saying, “You are as important to me as you are to God. I must listen to you as He would!”

Prayer: Help us, Lord, to honor and respect others who come to us in times of need. Help us to listen carefully and willingly, and to show others that we are there for them. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:13 He who answers without listening - that is his folly and shame. 

Listen Up!

There is a tremendous difference between listening and hearing. We can hear without listening but cannot listen without hearing. Our ears have become accustomed to being bombarded by so many loud noises that we often hear things without listening to what is actually going on or being said. It is reminiscent of the old adage that there is something “going in one ear and out the other” without being noticed. This can create problems for us.

“He who answers without listening - that is his folly and shame,” is a wise admonishment. All too often when we are talking with one another, we are more interested in what we are thinking about than what the other person is saying to us. Unless we place a high value on what they are saying, we are apt to misunderstand what that person is saying to us or needing from us.

There are those who think a quick answer is a sign of intellect, knowledge, or wisdom. Actually, it may be none of them. In fact, this proverb insists that to give an answer to someone without listening is, in fact, the sign of a foolish person. Furthermore, there is a strong suggestion in this proverb that the person who responds without careful thought is foolish, and will ultimately bring shame on him or herself.

But there is even a more subtle hint here that is well worth thinking about. A person who carefully and thoughtfully listens to another person shows that person respect. It is as if we are saying, “You are as important to me as you are to God. I must listen to you as He would!”

Prayer: Help us, Lord, to honor and respect others who come to us in times of need. Help us to listen carefully and willingly, and to show others that we are there for them. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:13 He who answers without listening - that is his folly and shame. 

Strength And Safety

For several years Mary and I lived near the top of King Mountain. It was a majestic setting. There was a breathtaking view from every window in every room. We had views that changed daily with the rising and setting of the sun, the moon and stars and colorful seasons. The storms were severe and sudden with strong winds, rain, and snow. There were days when we could not leave our home because we were “snowed in” and ice covered the road to the highway. Even though there were times when the winds were over 70 miles an hour, we felt secure. The structure was sound and stable and the siding was thick and tight. It was built to withstand the fiercest storms.

In Proverbs 18:10 we find a phrase that occurs only once in Proverbs. But it is a most important phrase: “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” This phrase, “The Name of the Lord” stands for the Lord Himself! It is a revelation of who He is and how He wants us to see and understand Him. In this verse, He is making Himself known to us. It does not talk about Him or something He might be or do; it tells us Who He is! This self-revelation of God clearly and specifically states that He is a "strong tower." Furthermore, when we trust in “the Name of the Lord” we are trusting in Him to be our all-sufficient refuge and when we do so, we enter into a place where no one can harm us or has access to defeat us!

Here, in this “strong tower” those who are righteous will find safety and security because they are wrapped securely in His strength. The “strong tower,” however, is only for His own.

Prayer: We thank You, Lord, for being our strong tower, where we can abide in peace, safety, comfort, and hope. Keep us safe from dangers that would defeat us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe. 

Strength And Safety

For several years Mary and I lived near the top of King Mountain. It was a majestic setting. There was a breathtaking view from every window in every room. We had views that changed daily with the rising and setting of the sun, the moon and stars and colorful seasons. The storms were severe and sudden with strong winds, rain, and snow. There were days when we could not leave our home because we were “snowed in” and ice covered the road to the highway. Even though there were times when the winds were over 70 miles an hour, we felt secure. The structure was sound and stable and the siding was thick and tight. It was built to withstand the fiercest storms.

In Proverbs 18:10 we find a phrase that occurs only once in Proverbs. But it is a most important phrase: “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” This phrase, “The Name of the Lord” stands for the Lord Himself! It is a revelation of who He is and how He wants us to see and understand Him. In this verse, He is making Himself known to us. It does not talk about Him or something He might be or do; it tells us Who He is! This self-revelation of God clearly and specifically states that He is a "strong tower." Furthermore, when we trust in “the Name of the Lord” we are trusting in Him to be our all-sufficient refuge and when we do so, we enter into a place where no one can harm us or has access to defeat us!

Here, in this “strong tower” those who are righteous will find safety and security because they are wrapped securely in His strength. The “strong tower,” however, is only for His own.

Prayer: We thank You, Lord, for being our strong tower, where we can abide in peace, safety, comfort, and hope. Keep us safe from dangers that would defeat us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe. 

How To Be Even-Tempered

A quick-tempered person is one to be avoided at all costs. Being the object of anyone’s “rage” is no fun. In fact, it can be frightening to say the least. However, if we are one of those who has a “short-fuse” and is prone to lose our tempers, where do we go for a “cure” and learn self-control?

“A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” This is what we can call a “high-dividend” proverb. It addresses the need that all of us have to control our speech. Certainly, all of us would like to have control of our words and be even-tempered. But how? And, what do we do to get “it”?

There is a subtle, yet critical, element in this verse. It refers to “gathering knowledge” - especially knowledge which enables us to moderate or control words, thoughts, and feelings.

Those who are wise know when and how to control their emotions and prevent situations that can be embarrassing and harmful to self and others. And that takes “restraint.”

“Restraint” implies the suggestion that we take time to consider what is happening in and around us by giving thought to our words before we let them come out of our mouths. We need to know our values and trigger points. And, this is the beginning of restraint.

All of us have trigger points - those little signals we “sense” before we explode. They are always connected to the values we build our lives around. They include faith and family, right and wrong, good and evil, God and country. Anything of importance to us, when violated, can cause us to “explode.” Be like a pilot before take-off: go through a check-list from God’s Word.

Prayer: Father, help us to understand ourselves as well as You do. Help us to learn “self-control” by claiming Your promises and depending on Your wisdom. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:27-28 A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue. 

How To Be Even-Tempered

A quick-tempered person is one to be avoided at all costs. Being the object of anyone’s “rage” is no fun. In fact, it can be frightening to say the least. However, if we are one of those who has a “short-fuse” and is prone to lose our tempers, where do we go for a “cure” and learn self-control?

“A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” This is what we can call a “high-dividend” proverb. It addresses the need that all of us have to control our speech. Certainly, all of us would like to have control of our words and be even-tempered. But how? And, what do we do to get “it”?

There is a subtle, yet critical, element in this verse. It refers to “gathering knowledge” - especially knowledge which enables us to moderate or control words, thoughts, and feelings.

Those who are wise know when and how to control their emotions and prevent situations that can be embarrassing and harmful to self and others. And that takes “restraint.”

“Restraint” implies the suggestion that we take time to consider what is happening in and around us by giving thought to our words before we let them come out of our mouths. We need to know our values and trigger points. And, this is the beginning of restraint.

All of us have trigger points - those little signals we “sense” before we explode. They are always connected to the values we build our lives around. They include faith and family, right and wrong, good and evil, God and country. Anything of importance to us, when violated, can cause us to “explode.” Be like a pilot before take-off: go through a check-list from God’s Word.

Prayer: Father, help us to understand ourselves as well as You do. Help us to learn “self-control” by claiming Your promises and depending on Your wisdom. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:27-28 A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue. 

Heart Medicine

One of my dear physician-friends wrote a book entitled “The Body Reveals.” He began his medical career as a general surgeon then studied to become a cardiovascular surgeon. One day while we were talking, he said, “Larry, the most disturbing part of my practice is that I cannot get people to look at their lives - what they are doing to themselves. People think they can do anything they want and then go to a physician for a prescription or some surgery and all of their problems will be corrected. That’s not the way we work. There’s a connection between our bodies and our minds, and we are very complex beings, because of the way God made us.”

There’s an intimate and complex connection between our heads, hearts, and bodies. God, our Creator, reminds us in His Word that our hearts contain emotions, values, goals, desires – the “sum total of who we are.” And, Solomon said it so well: “A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Incidentally, this is the only time the word medicine is used in the Old Testament. So, we must listen to God’s voice!

Our “peace of mind” directly affects our ability to maintain a life of wellness. Conversely, a “troubled mind” makes it difficult, if not impossible, to be healthy. A “troubled mind” makes it difficult to regain our health once we lose it. Jesus said, “My peace I leave with you!”

The most important lesson for us to learn from this verse is that “God is in control.” Whatever is, is a gift from Him to us, and He is somewhere “in” that gift. He is at work in our lives shaping us into His image. We must always remember that He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Prayer: Lord, life is difficult. Sickness comes, doubts arise, and suffering hurts. Grant us strength, peace and hope. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Heart Medicine

One of my dear physician-friends wrote a book entitled “The Body Reveals.” He began his medical career as a general surgeon then studied to become a cardiovascular surgeon. One day while we were talking, he said, “Larry, the most disturbing part of my practice is that I cannot get people to look at their lives - what they are doing to themselves. People think they can do anything they want and then go to a physician for a prescription or some surgery and all of their problems will be corrected. That’s not the way we work. There’s a connection between our bodies and our minds, and we are very complex beings, because of the way God made us.”

There’s an intimate and complex connection between our heads, hearts, and bodies. God, our Creator, reminds us in His Word that our hearts contain emotions, values, goals, desires – the “sum total of who we are.” And, Solomon said it so well: “A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Incidentally, this is the only time the word medicine is used in the Old Testament. So, we must listen to God’s voice!

Our “peace of mind” directly affects our ability to maintain a life of wellness. Conversely, a “troubled mind” makes it difficult, if not impossible, to be healthy. A “troubled mind” makes it difficult to regain our health once we lose it. Jesus said, “My peace I leave with you!”

The most important lesson for us to learn from this verse is that “God is in control.” Whatever is, is a gift from Him to us, and He is somewhere “in” that gift. He is at work in our lives shaping us into His image. We must always remember that He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Prayer: Lord, life is difficult. Sickness comes, doubts arise, and suffering hurts. Grant us strength, peace and hope. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Heart Disease

Many live marginalized lives when all of us can be blest by God and have His favor. Most search for secrets to His blessings and gifts. Many become angry at those who are enjoying life more than they are and become resentful at God for His blessings to, on, or for others. It’s “wrong” for people to have more than they do.

God has no secrets and no favorites. All of us have equal access to Him and His word. It is our choice as to whether or not we will take advantage of what He has to offer us. And, furthermore, it is our responsibility - if we choose - to seek His favor: His grace and goodness.

But there certainly are conditions. For example: “A man of perverse heart does not prosper, he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.” Here is a good starting point if we want God’s blessings: is my heart clean and pure or perverse and deceitful?

God gives one reminder that we must never forget. What is in the heart inevitably comes out of our mouths. There is no way around that God-given admonition. Our hearts are the center of our universe and what is in our heart becomes the foundation of our life. Our heart is what drives us. So, if we bow to and worship money, we will do whatever it takes to get it - even if it is wrong and harms others. The same would go for fame or power or prestige.

If God is not at the center of our heart, something else is and that is what we will live and die for. There are many who want to have it both ways: do whatever to get whatever they want, and then give God whatever is left. That’s the description of a perverse and deceitful mind.

Prayer: This day, Lord, can be a day when we focus on “hearts.” May we look deep inside our heart and carefully examine its contents, and then get rid of all our sins. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:20 A man of perverse heart does not prosper, he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.” 

Heart Disease

Many live marginalized lives when all of us can be blest by God and have His favor. Most search for secrets to His blessings and gifts. Many become angry at those who are enjoying life more than they are and become resentful at God for His blessings to, on, or for others. It’s “wrong” for people to have more than they do.

God has no secrets and no favorites. All of us have equal access to Him and His word. It is our choice as to whether or not we will take advantage of what He has to offer us. And, furthermore, it is our responsibility - if we choose - to seek His favor: His grace and goodness.

But there certainly are conditions. For example: “A man of perverse heart does not prosper, he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.” Here is a good starting point if we want God’s blessings: is my heart clean and pure or perverse and deceitful?

God gives one reminder that we must never forget. What is in the heart inevitably comes out of our mouths. There is no way around that God-given admonition. Our hearts are the center of our universe and what is in our heart becomes the foundation of our life. Our heart is what drives us. So, if we bow to and worship money, we will do whatever it takes to get it - even if it is wrong and harms others. The same would go for fame or power or prestige.

If God is not at the center of our heart, something else is and that is what we will live and die for. There are many who want to have it both ways: do whatever to get whatever they want, and then give God whatever is left. That’s the description of a perverse and deceitful mind.

Prayer: This day, Lord, can be a day when we focus on “hearts.” May we look deep inside our heart and carefully examine its contents, and then get rid of all our sins. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:20 A man of perverse heart does not prosper, he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.” 

Finances And Friendship

Is there a limit to friendship? It seems that there is.

“A man lacking in judgment strikes the hand of another in a pledge, and puts up security for his neighbor” is sound advice!

Only the hardest of hearts want to see anyone suffer from a lack of life’s necessities. Most of us want to be thought of as having kind hearts and willing hands. Many have given more than their share of their goods and finances without thinking of the cost to them personally. There have been times that what once seemed wise, in the final analysis, was not wise, but stupid. So, we come to a verse that puts the idea of giving into the proper context for us.

It’s foolish or a “man lacks judgment” for a person to place their name on a contract unless they know for certain the character and financial resources of the other person. So, there is indeed a limit to friendship.

Very often, and with good intentions and the desire to be “liked,” we foolhardily shake hands or “make a pledge” for a person who cannot or will not honor their word. To enter into any agreement with any person for any reason must be given careful, prayerful thought. It is foolish to give our word and promise to fulfill any contract simply to be liked or considered a “friend.”

This proverb addresses the idea of “certainty.” If, for example, the person who is the primary individual on the contract becomes unable to fulfill his obligations, the burden of fulfilling the obligation falls on the “hand shaker.” To do so may endanger the family of the co-signer as well as encourage the one wanting financial assistance to be extravagant and careless in spending. Being “nice” often results in being swindled. However, always be kind.

Prayer: We ask, Lord, that we may seek Your wisdom and guidance before making foolish choices to help others. May we be kind, cautious and prayerful. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:18 A man lacking in judgment strikes the hand of another in a pledge, and puts up security for his neighbor.

Finances And Friendship

Is there a limit to friendship? It seems that there is.

“A man lacking in judgment strikes the hand of another in a pledge, and puts up security for his neighbor” is sound advice!

Only the hardest of hearts want to see anyone suffer from a lack of life’s necessities. Most of us want to be thought of as having kind hearts and willing hands. Many have given more than their share of their goods and finances without thinking of the cost to them personally. There have been times that what once seemed wise, in the final analysis, was not wise, but stupid. So, we come to a verse that puts the idea of giving into the proper context for us.

It’s foolish or a “man lacks judgment” for a person to place their name on a contract unless they know for certain the character and financial resources of the other person. So, there is indeed a limit to friendship.

Very often, and with good intentions and the desire to be “liked,” we foolhardily shake hands or “make a pledge” for a person who cannot or will not honor their word. To enter into any agreement with any person for any reason must be given careful, prayerful thought. It is foolish to give our word and promise to fulfill any contract simply to be liked or considered a “friend.”

This proverb addresses the idea of “certainty.” If, for example, the person who is the primary individual on the contract becomes unable to fulfill his obligations, the burden of fulfilling the obligation falls on the “hand shaker.” To do so may endanger the family of the co-signer as well as encourage the one wanting financial assistance to be extravagant and careless in spending. Being “nice” often results in being swindled. However, always be kind.

Prayer: We ask, Lord, that we may seek Your wisdom and guidance before making foolish choices to help others. May we be kind, cautious and prayerful. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:18 A man lacking in judgment strikes the hand of another in a pledge, and puts up security for his neighbor.

Love, Like And Friendship

Years ago I read a book entitled, “A Friend is Someone Who Likes You.” Never mind the word love in the title of the book or in the mind of the author. The message the author wanted his readers to understand is that love is an obligation for Christians - but to like someone, well, that’s a choice.

The book makes it clear that we all do things that are difficult for others to accept - especially those who know us best. But to get above strange differences and ugly habits and accept others as they are - that is “true” friendship. And, when things go awry, it doesn’t matter. They are to be overlooked. A friend willingly overlooks the worst in a friend and is always ready to lend a hand, give a hug, or share words of encouragement.

Is that not the way we Christians are to treat each other? I recently heard someone say, “Well, I love them enough to get into heaven, but that does not mean I have to love them for the way they are and how they act.” Oh yes, it does.

There are different ways of understanding what Solomon meant when he wrote: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In the Hebrew text “One who loves at all times” comes first and is then followed by “friend.” The idea that Solomon wants us to understand and accept is that friends, by choice, can do what is right and to be expected among and between friends, at all times. Or, “Only that one who loves at all times is a friend.”

When we enter into times of adversity, when one’s world is turned upside down and inside out, when life no longer makes sense, strong human relationships – true friendships - are critical. And, a true friend loves us through it all, no matter what.

Prayer: Father, help us to cultivate friends who will be with us “through it all” and like us as well as love us. Help us to be a friend to someone today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. 

Love, Like And Friendship

Years ago I read a book entitled, “A Friend is Someone Who Likes You.” Never mind the word love in the title of the book or in the mind of the author. The message the author wanted his readers to understand is that love is an obligation for Christians - but to like someone, well, that’s a choice.

The book makes it clear that we all do things that are difficult for others to accept - especially those who know us best. But to get above strange differences and ugly habits and accept others as they are - that is “true” friendship. And, when things go awry, it doesn’t matter. They are to be overlooked. A friend willingly overlooks the worst in a friend and is always ready to lend a hand, give a hug, or share words of encouragement.

Is that not the way we Christians are to treat each other? I recently heard someone say, “Well, I love them enough to get into heaven, but that does not mean I have to love them for the way they are and how they act.” Oh yes, it does.

There are different ways of understanding what Solomon meant when he wrote: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In the Hebrew text “One who loves at all times” comes first and is then followed by “friend.” The idea that Solomon wants us to understand and accept is that friends, by choice, can do what is right and to be expected among and between friends, at all times. Or, “Only that one who loves at all times is a friend.”

When we enter into times of adversity, when one’s world is turned upside down and inside out, when life no longer makes sense, strong human relationships – true friendships - are critical. And, a true friend loves us through it all, no matter what.

Prayer: Father, help us to cultivate friends who will be with us “through it all” and like us as well as love us. Help us to be a friend to someone today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.